Last Saturday (March 12, 2005) I attended my nephew’s wedding feast. Unbelievably, this was the 3rd occasion for him and the 4th for his same bride. The first one was their engagement do, and their second one, a wedding ceremony was (supposed to be) held sometime last year at the bride’s home. It was at this "second" function that when our (bridegroom’s) party reached there, everything looked normal then, i.e. crowded with guests befitting a wedding ceremony. We were ushered in to the lounge inside the house where we saw a decorated dais for the wedded couple to sit on prominently for all to see. An Imam (a cleric) who has to read the sermons and perform the marriage ceremony according to the Muslim rites was seated next to the rostrum. Beside him was the bride’s father who somehow or rather, looked forlorn and upset. We waited in silence for quite a long time for the ceremony to begin.. but it never happened. Finally, the father of the bride spoke. He told the cleric and all those sitting close around him that his daughter (the bride) has ran away from home. What the…? A long discussion then ensued between both families in which an agreement has been reached to postpone the marriage to an undisclosed date.
Our party was shocked and bemused by this unexpected outcome. It seemed that both family members involved already knew about this matter in the beginning but still decided to continue with the function in case the bride resolved to return home in time for the knot tying ceremony. But it never materialised as expected. We returned home devastated at the turn of the event which was not to our favour. I then approached my nephew and gave him a piece of advice (which I later regretted). I told him to forget about his fiance and start looking for a new life partner. He never respond to my advice and spent without heed to the consequences at all.
A few weeks after that eventful so-called "wedding ceremony", rumour has it that the girl had actually ran off with and married her childhood sweetheart. Small wonder! But my nephew was determined to get her back at any cost. He managed to get in touch with his girl via SMS. I don’t know what transpired between them. But finally, the girl came home.. as a wife to someone whom her family has once rejected the marriage proposal. Not to complicate matters any more, the girl managed to get herself a divorce. And today, both my nephew and her "former" fiance are reunited; this time legally as a husband and wife. May they live happily ever after.